I Want My Husband to Hold Me More - 5 Steps to More Intimacy

In the case of most married couples, the passion that first brought them together burns brightly at first, then fades ever so slowly over time. Even still, many married couples report maintaining healthy sexual relationships with their partners for decades.

Related to the sexual connection between husband and wife is that of everyday touching, holding and other forms of physical affection. While sex and day-to-day physical closeness do not always go hand-in-hand, there is often a strong correlation between them.

Unfortunately, some women and men go years in their relationships without doing much touching, holding each other, or otherwise being romantically close. At some point, one or both members of the marriage may realize this fact and start to really miss this side of their relationship. They want an immediate remedy but are not exactly sure how to go about getting it.

If you find yourself saying to yourself, family and friends, "I want my husband to hold me more," here are 5 steps to greater physical intimacy with him:

1. Tell him how you feel:
Communication is key in this situation. Even if your husband is not the type to want to talk about his feelings (most men aren't), that is no reason not to bring up the subject with him. Even though it may be a bit embarrassing to talk about, your bringing up the subject of your needs in the physical side of the relationship will constitute an important step in mending that part of your lives together.

2. Ask him what you can do for him:
One unwritten but very real law of human relationships is, "Give and ye shall receive." Ask your husband what type of touching he likes. Does he prefer a quick back massage, or hand holding, or kissing, for example? If he makes any indication as to what he likes, don't be shy in getting right up and obliging his desire. You may be surprised when you do at just how much he opens up to wanting to hold you more.

3. Tell him you want him to hold you for 20 minutes before you make love:
If you have a fairly regular or even healthy sex life with your husband, surprise him next time by saying you would like to hold each other for about 20 minutes or so before you make love. Not only will you get your much-needed cuddle time in, but this type of holding before sex can act as a strong aphrodisiac - which will benefit both of you.

4. Propose to give each other massages:
Set aside an hour and get some private space such as your bedroom - or living room if you can make sure nobody else will be home - and give each other massages. If you don't have a massage table, a chair or bed will do. This type of intimate touching may encourage him to want to hold you more often.

5. Be nurturing and caring to him:
In some small way, no matter how grown up your husband is, he still likes to be nurtured and cared for sometimes. This is a natural human trait, and at some level your husband is no exception. Show him this type of tenderness and caring and he is very likely to return it to you!

Take these 5 steps in order to get your husband to hold you more. Meanwhile, if you feel that some deeper, underlying issues in your marriage are getting in the way of your physical intimacy, take the time to educate yourself about how to get them resolved.